BE EMPATHETIC: Empathy basically means to walk in your spouse’s shoes and understand life from his/her perspective.The most important marriage skill is listening to your partner in a way that they can’t possibly doubt that you love them.(Gary Thomas, “ Devotions for a Sacred Marriage”) You know what this tells me in a practical sense? The pause button on my tongue’s remote control should get much more use than the play button. We can’t wait to express our opinion, state our outrage, or make clear our intentions, yet the Bible warns, “ When words are many, sin is not absent“ (Proverbs 10:19). Our natural, arrogant selves are eager to speak, to be heard, and to be understood. Instead of listening, our impatient souls immediately want to provide commentary. Even when our spouses misbehave or create difficult situations for us, we’re to tune in to God’s still, small voice and ask, “What is it you want me to learn from this? How are you stretching me at this time? What are you trying to do in my soul? (Dr Gary Chapman, from the Marriage Partnership Magazine article, “Solving Conflicts Without Arguing”) When we listen, understand, and respect each other’s ideas, we can then find a solution in which both of us are winners. Listening helps us focus on the heart of the conflict. When people respond too quickly, they often respond to the wrong issue. The most common mistake couples make while trying to resolve conflicts is to respond before they have the full picture.(David Augsburger, Cherishable: Love and Marriage)
Marriage is a venture into intimacy, and intimacy is the opening of one self to another. …When two persons can share from the very center of their existence, they experience love in its truest quality.
When your meaning meets my meaning across the bridge of words, tones, acts, and deeds, when understanding occurs, then we know that we have communicated. Communication is the meeting of meaning.We pray they will minister to your situation: The following are quotes from various resources pertaining to the subject of communication and also on conflict.
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